Raising Responsible Kids

"I didn't do it!" "Nobody saw me do it!" "You can't prove anything!" -- Bart Simpson

The response of the cartoon character, young Bart Simpson, whenever he gets in trouble, is somewhat typical of young kids. However, we're in an age where adults are echoing the same remarks whenever confronted for their antisocial behaviors. There are those who say adult irresponsible behavior is becoming the norm in the 2000’s. It appears easier to cry "victim" when confronted for an antisocial behavior than to hold yourself accountable for your actions.

Dr. Darrell Burnett, a clinical child psychologist, has been in private practice in southern California for 25 + years, specializing in positive parenting while working with children, adolescents, and families. He is convinced that, while it is easy to bemoan the absence of responsible adults, we, as parents, are better off spending our energy on developing responsible children, who will then become responsible adults. To that end, he has published a 30-page booklet and a 70-minute audiotape, Raising Responsible Kids: 5 Steps for Parents.

In his workshop, RAISING RESPONSIBLE KIDS, which he has given to more than 50 school PTA groups (pre-school through high school), he shares the ideas from his booklet and tape, using an upbeat, positive, practical, hands-on, humorous approach, with comic strips, active audience participation, videotape and audiotape samples.

Dr. Burnett notes that the dictionary defines responsible as "accountable, liable, able to accept consequences for one's behavior." The key word is CONSEQUENCES. Dr. Burnett sees one of the major tasks of parenthood as that of making a concerted effort to teach children to make the connection between their behaviors and the consequences for their behaviors. In his workshop he discusses, among other things:

  • How to teach the "3 A's" of consequences: awareness, anticipation, and acceptance.
  • How to stay consistent.
  • How to "spell out" expectations and consequences.
  • How to look for positives in kids.

About the Presenter:

Dr.Darrell Burnett is a clinical and sport psychologist, marriage and family therapist, author, lecturer, and father of three. Besides several newspaper and magazine articles, Dr. Burnett has numerous positive parenting publications, addressing family life issues, and issues in youth sports. His article, “Raising Responsible Kids” appears in a recently published book, Parent School . He is the author of “Improving Parent-Adolescent Relationships.” He has two articles in Chicken Soup for the Soul series. A "Coach with Soul" appears in Chicken Soup for the Soul at Work. "Challenger Baseball" appears in Chicken Soup for the Unsinkable Soul. He was a primary author in Gatorade’s parent handbook for youth sports. He has made several radio and TV appearances, including an appearance on Robert Schuller's nationally televised Hour of Power. As a member of the National Speakers Association, Dr. Burnett is popular as a keynote speaker for local, state, and national organizations and corporations.

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